Rebuild a sex life that feels playful instead of pressured.
Private 1:1 coaching for couples who love each other
but are tired of sex feeling like
pressure, rejection, avoidance, or another problem to solve.
It used to be the two of you against the world - but now there's more than two of you and the world is... well...tiring.
For 6 months, we'll work privately together to identify the patterns keeping you stuck, rebuild connection and intimacy in your relationship, and create a sex life that actually works for you.
Maybe you can't initiate without worrying about rejection. Maybe saying no creates tension. Maybe you're exhausted from parenting and can't figure out how to shift into intimacy. Maybe you've stopped talking about sex because every conversation turns into a fight.
You don't need more generic advice.
You need someone who can see what's happening between you, help you understand why you're stuck, and coach you through changing it.
Erin & Dave — parents of two (under 10)
They had a long-standing “scheduled Saturday sex” routine that worked for years… until it didn’t. Over time, it started to feel pressured on both sides. He worried she wasn’t enjoying it, and she felt like she was going through the motions. What used to feel like connection began to feel like obligation.
In their first guided date night inside the program, there was no expectation for sex, just a structured way to transition out of parenting mode and back into connection. That night turned into two hours of ease, laughter, and intimacy that felt natural again — not because they forced it, but because the pressure was gone and the structure finally supported connection instead of performance.
This is for couples who want to...
Reconnect when sex or desire has started to feel shut down, distant, or complicated.
Talk honestly about sex without defensiveness, pressure, or resentment.
Rebuild non-sexual connection and affection so intimacy doesn't have to start in the bedroom.
Find your way back to sexual connection when low desire, avoidance, or disconnection has become the pattern.
Look forward to sex instead of feeling dread, obligation, or pressure.
Say "not tonight" without it ruining the rest of the evening.
Stop wondering whether or how to initiate.
Reconnect after a hard week instead of drifting further apart.
Stop having sex you're pushing through.
Build a playbook for intimacy that actually fits your relationship.
Because this isn’t about fixing either of you. It’s about upgrading the foundation intimacy runs on.
Is this for us?
You’re in the Right Place If...
→ You love your partner — they are genuinely your person — and you wish this one thing didn’t have to be so hard
→ One of you is always asking, one is always avoiding, and you’re both exhausted by the cycle
→ You’ve tried things before — date nights, conversations, maybe therapy — and nothing has stuck
→ You have kids aged 2 and up and are ready to stop putting your relationship last
→ You’re willing to own your part and do the work as a team, even if your partner isn’t fully on board yet
→ You want coached, structured support — not more information to process alone
This Probably Isn’t for You If...
→ Your relationship is in crisis and you need urgent couples counselling first — please get that
→ Your kids are under 2 and you’re in survival mode — come back when you’ve emerged from the fog
→ You’re looking for a magic fix that requires zero practice and zero conversation
→ You’re 100% certain this is entirely your partner’s fault and you have no part to play
→ You genuinely don’t believe things can change — this work requires a sliver of hope to begin
Remember: you aren't alone and you deserve pleasure.
Straight from the mouths of couples just like you, now embracing a more joyful, pleasure-filled marriage.
"You make this so easy to talk about."
"We took a weekend away from the kids and OMG, we did it six times, my body kept wanting more. The debrief has become so easy. We are more comfortable talking and we are learning together what is working now."
"Thank you for being on our marriage team!"
"Like not just the sex stuff, but the mental load stuff and the emotion stuff. It's just so amazing to have you on our team supporting us."
"Worth so much more than the cost to register!"
"I found the videos very enlightening and identify so many of the points both ways. I think this is worth more investment."
"Our talk completely helped me reframe some of the fears and insecurities I had in my marriage that were causing me major distress."
"Last night started as a fuck no after a long day with the kids. We had a great talk, loaded up one of the date nights, and next thing - sex was happening. Thank you!
Why private coaching?
Most couples don't need more information.
You probably already know you're supposed to communicate. You probably already know you should make time for intimacy.
The hard part is figuring out why those things aren't working for you.
That's where private coaching comes in.
I'll help you identify the specific pattern your relationship is caught in, and then we'll work on it together in real time.
My Naked Fun Comeback curriculum gives you the concepts and practices between sessions. Our coaching is where we apply them to your relationship, your history, your communication, and what's actually happening in your bedroom.
10 Private Coaching Spots Opening This Fall
I’m opening just 10 private coaching spots in late September 2026.
If you know you want support but you’re not quite ready to jump in yet, join the waitlist.
Waitlist members will get first access to the available spots, special waitlist pricing, and the opportunity to reserve a spot before they’re opened more broadly.
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I'm Sofia, and I've been the “not tonight” partner.
I know what it's like to love your partner deeply and still feel completely disconnected from your desire.
I built my coaching and programs after years of figuring out what actually helped me reconnect with my body, my partner, and my desire after kids.
Now I help couples do the same thing, without forcing themselves into someone else's version of intimacy.
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