Sex After Kids
Get back to the "Us" you were before kids - even if you feel like you have no energy, time or desire for sexy times with 20+ sex, self and relationship experts.
The 2024 live event is over but you can still access a years worth of date nights and fun sessions with the Couples Goals VIP ticket
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I feel like this summit must be a REQUIREMENT for anyone in a relationship for more than 3 years ((aka, once the "honeymoon" phase wears off)).
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I have complained to doctors, and was told that as life changes "sex" becomes less important. But I didn't want to be "roommates" just sharing bills/home... I wanted full and complete love in all its forms. This summit has helped me find answers that I was looking for, and opened my eyes (to possibilities) for more than what I originally wished for.
Finally a sex and relationship summit for the unique realities of keeping your intimate life alive as a parent.
I get it:
One of you...
Never or rarely initiates sex or intimacy - you just don't feel the need or urge
Is stuck in your head during sex - can't get in the mood to relax
Judges your post - baby body and doesn’t feel sexy anymore
Is too tired and exhausted to put the effort into intimate play. Just thinking about it makes you cringe.
Has no idea where their libido went - is it hormones, stress, perimenopause?
Can’t name what will work for you in bed
While the other...
Is not confident that their partner is having a good time, but doesn't know what to do about it
Doesn’t feel desired anymore
Is ready to go anytime, anywhere (mostly).
Has no idea how to help their partner.
Is feeling more and more insecure about initiating and fearful of rejection.
You are busy roommates focused on the logistics of life and the fun and playfulness is missing from your connection.
The bottom line is that you both love each other, want to stay together and want a fun, easy, playful sex life to be part of your relationship after kids.
Whether you can't remember the last time you had sex, or the sex you are having is a little lacklustre, this summit can help you build your own unique path forward as a team.
With 20+ sessions all under 20 minutes you will learn together, laugh together, and grow together.
How would it feel to:
Unlock the mystery of what's blocking you or your partners libido after kids and what to do about it
Feel really seen and heard by each other and like you are tackling this challenge as a team.
Ditch the guilt and pressure to perform and replace it with curiosity and playful exploration.
Relax deeply into pleasure of all kinds every day of your life.
Know the right way to invite your partner and yourself to a party their libido wants to show up to.
Get out of your head and into your body so you can enjoy what is happening.
Name what you need and ask for it with confidence
Tackle common challenges like painful intercourse and premature ejaculation with more ease.
Start having sex you enjoy again or see the bread crumb trail that will get you there over time.
Feel like the "us" you were before kids
Imagine 25 done-for -you date nights where all you have to do is press play to unlock more sexy times.
In your couples goals pass you will find
20+ presentations from sex, self and relationships experts all under 30 minutes
The Summit Workbook to gather all your insights in one place and support you to take action
A Private Podcast Feed so you can listen to all the presentations on the go
5 Follow along guided date night activities to explore each other.
Day 1 - Mindset Matters
Great sex is mind, body and soul - so we'll start in the brain and explore the myths and mindsets that are holding us back from playful and sexy connection with our partner. Whether it's not believing in your right to pleasure, holding onto shame about doing the deed, or falling prey to great sexpectations - we'll help you shift perspective so you can open new potential.
The 5 Phases of Sexual Intimacy
Dave Purcell ( He/Him )
Matrescence and Sex: How Motherhood's Identity Shift Impacts Your Intimacy
Kendra Williams ( She/Her )
Intimate Confidence: Strengthening Your Body Image and Your Sensual Connection
Ivy Felicia ( She/Her )
Gender Traps: Scripts That Hinder Sexual Intimacy
Sarah Cloutier ( She/Her )
Make Making Time For Your Partner Easy
Becca Rich ( She/Her )
Fatherhood and Sex: Questioning the Status Quo
Dan Doty ( He/Him )
Getting Past We/You are Broken: Changing Your Mindset to Fail Forward
Sofia Ashley - Summit Host ( She/Her )
Day 2 - Back to Us
A great sex life relies on a great couple connection, and a great sex life builds a great couple connection. on day 4 we focus on how to find the flirt and the love under the mountain as you welcome a third, fourth, fifth... human into your relationship dynamic.
Moving out of Conflict and Back Into Connection
Michelle Purta ( She/Her )
Creating Together: Art as a Path to Connection - Date Night
Leanne Morton ( She/Her )
The Most Unexpected Ways To Build Intimacy After Kids
Lindsey Cavanagh ( She/Her )
Elephant in the Room: Talking About Your Sex Life
Sofia Ashley - Summit Host ( She/Her )
Embody Your Unique Sexual Superpowers With Erotic Blueprints (TM)
Helen Rowlands ( She/Her )
Sex Into Your Sixties: Secrets For Long Term Lovers
Helen Rowlands ( She/Her )
Day 3 - Working With Your Body Instead of Against It
How does my libido actually work? Why do I have painful intercourse? Why can't I keep an erection? Today is all about the sex-ed you deserve and helping you decode what is blocking your libido or hampering your sexy time.
Get Into the Drivers Seat of Your Libido After Kids
Sofia Ashley - Summit Host ( She/Her )
Top Three Ways Your Pelvic Floor Affects Sexy Times - And What to do About It
Lindsay Geddes ( She/Her )
Sexy Times and Chronic Pain: Finding Pleasure and Connection
Evan Sweeney ( He/Him )
Unlock Your Raw Sexual Energy and Last as Long as You Want in the Bedroom
Tyson Adams ( He/Him )
Finding Connection After C-Section: Recovering From Birth Trauma
Divina Johnson ( She/Her )
When Sex is Over Too Fast and What To Do About It
Dave Purcell ( He/Him )
Get Clitorate!
Dawn ( She/Her )
Divine Union For Lovers: Being Held In Vulnerable Transparency - Giving and Receiving One Way Intimate Touch DATE NIGHT
Rahi Chun ( He/Him )
Divine Union For Lovers: Being Held In Vulnerable Transparency - Giving and Receiving One Way Intimate Touch DATE NIGHT
Ariel Szabo ( She/Her )
Day 3 - Working With Your Body Instead of Against It
How does my libido actually work? Why do I have painful intercourse? Why can't I keep an erection? Today is all about the sex-ed you deserve and helping you decode what is blocking your libido or hampering your sexy time.
Sensual Touch: Bite Sized Options for Busy Parents
Libby Sheppard ( She/Her )
Co-Creating Your Sex Practice: Stop Preforming and Start Practicing
Daniela Stevens ( She/They )
Planning a Party Your Libido Wants to Come To: Initiating Connection With Confidence
Sofia Ashley - Summit Host ( She/Her )
Sensual IQ and Hot Fantasies
Shawnrey Notto ( She/Her )
Mapping Your Lovers 11 Erogenous Zones as Foreplay to Love Making
Rahi Chun ( He/Him )
Chill Out Your Nervous System to Turn On the Naked Sexy Fun Times
Veronique Herry ( She/Her )
Delight the Senses: Creative Ways to Play DATE NIGHT
Sofia Ashley - Summit Host ( She/Her )
The Sex After Kids Summit was specifically designed for parents (whether by birth, adoption or blended family), no matter your gender or sexual identity who are struggling to find their way back to each other after kids.
This isn't your cosmo mag sex advice for people who sleep, don't wake up with cheerios in their hair, or worry about teens hearing their moans and groans through a door.
This is legit practical advice that you can implement tomorrow. We are teaching foundational skills that will evolve with you as your body and sex life do. These skill can be used both in and out of the bedroom at whatever level you are ready to start at.
Toys, dirty talk, lingerie, and the latest random sex positions are all wonderful additions to our intimacy, but without safety, communication, a sense of play and connection - they will fall flat.
I know you are ready to get back to, or maybe find for the first time - an easy, playful and sexy connection in your relationship.
Let us show you how.
Meet Your Host
Sofia Ashley is the creator of the Sex After Kids Summit and the founder of the Happy Vagina Project. She has over 10 years of experience as a sex coach and educator working with teens, tots and adults of all abilities and these days specializes in supporting parents overcome mismatched libido and lacklustre sex so that they can find the spark in themselves and their relationship after kids. She is a certified Tantra coach and sex educator.
She is a mom of two and step-mom of one just trying to keep her libido and her couple connection alive in a neurospicy blended family. She is on a mission to bridge the orgasm gap, and keep families together. She believes your pleasure matters. She believes your sex life matters and she believes your relationship matters.
Join Sofia and 25 other sex, self, and relationship experts for 4 laughter filled days of mini dates and learning session.
FAQ
How do I know this summit is right for me?
If you are a parent (by birth, adoption or blended family), no matter your sexual or gender idenity who is in a sexual stalemate and can't remember the last time you had sex, or you are having sex but one or both of you is dissatisfied with the frequency or quality of your sex life - then this summit is for you.
It's mostly suited to parents with kids between 1-10 who are in the mess of midlife parenting.
If you are pregnant or in the first year post-partum the summit will help you get the dialogue going early which is a win, but your parenting season may make it hard to implement until you are through the sleepless haze.
If you are empty nesters I'm sure there us gold to be found for you here too.
We strongly encourage you both to participate in the summit - you will get more out of it as a team project, and you can absolutely sign up alone - you will learn some toll to engage your partner in this conversation is talking about it is hard.
If you are single you may not find it that relevant for you however you could learn some things for the future.
If you are in a new relationship you will learn some thing to start your sex life on the right footing.
What can I expect from the presentations?
We have worked hard to curate a diverse set of speakers and create a unique pathway of learning for each couple.
Everyone is at a different stage of their journey. For some of you sex is not even on the table and we are going to meet you where you are and give you some steps to take in that direction, and for others sex is happening but it needs some tweaks.
This means that you can expect some not so spicy (explicit) options, and some more explicit options on the menu. You can expect informative sessions that have assessments and self-reflection, and you can expect guided step by step activities.
Everything is designed to be practical, realistic to the lives of parents, and easy to implement during the summit or right after.
We have worked really hard to bring diverse perspectives to the table and ensure we are talking about some of the lesser covered topics - like sex and disability, queer identities and relationships and non judgemental support for men in this space as well. They come with their own unique bag of trauma and societal expectations and are often vilified in these in these kinds of conversations.
We are always open to feedback and new ideas. Send us an email at [email protected]
How accessible is this summit?
All of the sessions are available with captions and transcripts. Please reach out if there is anything we can do to ensure you have a wonderful experience at our event. Email [email protected]
Are the presentations live? How long do i have access?
This event originally took place in November of 2024. The presentations were pre-recorded with some sessions live during that week.
All of the presentations are replays or originally recorded. You have access to them all for the lifetime of this product.
We are hosting a second summit in February of 2026. Stay tuned for info.
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