One part science of science, one part magic, and one part real talk for busy parents (of all identities) who want to find the play and the sexy in their couple connection after kids

New Episodes Every Tuesday

We dish...

  • Dispatches from the bedroom

  • Tips and tools to get grounded into your pleasure

  • My fave tools for connecting with each other post kids

  • Info and inspiration to help you figure out what’s got you in a sexual stalemate and how to get out of it

  • No judgement advice for all partners

Recent Episodes

The Sex After Kids Podcast

When You're the One Wanting More (And He Doesn't)

When You're the One Wanting More (And He Doesn't)

Ever find yourself wanting intimacy more than your husband and wondering what changed after kids? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about the real reasons behind this shift and why "trying harder" isn't the solution.

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It's Not Your Libido—It's Your Relationship to Pleasure (Why Desire Disappears)

It's Not Your Libido—It's Your Relationship to Pleasure (Why Desire Disappears)

If you've been feeling disconnected from desire or sex just isn't something you care about anymore, it might not be about libido at all. In this episode, we explore how pleasure often disappears from everyday life, and why that has a direct impact on desire.

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The Myth of Natural Sex: Why Great Sex Is Actually a Skill You Learn

The Myth of Natural Sex: Why Great Sex Is Actually a Skill You Learn

What if the biggest thing hurting your sex life is the belief that it should just "happen naturally"? In this episode, we're breaking down one of the most common assumptions couples carry into intimacy and replacing it with something far more useful.

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The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life

The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life

Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it? In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring, a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself during intimacy instead of being present in your body.

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Why Sex Feels Hard After Kids (And How to Rebuild Desire With a Positive Feedback Loop)

Why Sex Feels Hard After Kids (And How to Rebuild Desire With a Positive Feedback Loop)

What if rebuilding sexual desire wasn't about trying harder - but about changing the experiences your body pairs with sex? In this episode, we explore the idea of the positive feedback loop of great sex and how your nervous system plays a strong role in whether intimacy feels inviting or not.

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[RETRO] Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to My Signature Program!

[RETRO] Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to My Signature Program!

Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated? Over time sex slowly fades out of the relationship. In this throwback episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I talk one of the most common dynamics couples experience after kids: the initiate–avoid cycle.

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