Dispatches from the bedroom
Tips and tools to get grounded into your pleasure
My fave tools for connecting with each other post kids
Info and inspiration to help you figure out what’s got you in a sexual stalemate and how to get out of it
No judgement advice for all partners
If you sat down for a cup of coffee with me and said, “Sofia, fix our sex life,” you might expect me to start by asking how often you’re having sex, who initiates, or what exactly is happening in your bedroom. I actually don’t start there.
Today we are celebrating 2 years of the podcast. In this episode I share what I hear from you both the most and why it's not what you think.
In a lot of my heterosexual couples, I see the same tension. One partner has easy, unfraught access to this part of them. To them, sex is a sandbox. "Let's go play in the sandbox.
Here's a question to sit with for a second: if your kid asked you "chocolate ice cream or sorbet tonight?" would you know your answer?
If you feel like the best sex of your marriage is somewhere in the rearview mirror, I want to hand you a different idea. For a lot of couples in midlife, it's not behind you. It's ahead.
Most of us were handed a formula for sex that goes like this: attraction plus desire equals great sex. You feel the pull. You feel the spark. Then you act.
