Certified Intimacy Coach and Sex Educator for Parents

I’ve had to find my way back to intimacy, too

I’ve spent more than a decade helping people understand sex, desire, and connection, but my own journey through painful sex, motherhood, changing hormones, chronic illness, and a long-term relationship shaped this work just as much as any certification ever did.

Hi, I’m Sofia, and yes, sex has been complicated for me.

Long before I was helping other people with their sex lives, I was trying to figure out my own. I struggled with painful sex, orgasms, and not feeling at home in my body. Looking for answers eventually led me deep into the world of intimacy, desire, and pleasure, and ultimately to becoming a Certified Authentic Tantra Coach and Sex Educator.


For more than a decade, I’ve helped women and couples have better sex and feel more connected. Then life handed me a whole new education. I became a stepmom, had babies, experienced zero libido after having kids, navigated an autoimmune diagnosis, and eventually entered the wild world of perimenopause. Turns out, the advice that works at 25 doesn’t always have much to say about this.


That changed the way I work. Today, I help couples understand how intimacy changes alongside real life and learn practical skills for navigating desire, communication, pressure, rejection, and connection together. I know firsthand how much can change, even when the love is still very much there.

A few things that got me here:

• 10+ years helping women and couples navigate sex, desire, pleasure, and connection.

• Certified Authentic Tantra Coach + Sex Educator, with an approach that blends practical tools, modern science, and real-life experience.

• Mom of two + stepmom of one, so yes, I know what intimacy looks like when kids are very much part of the equation.

• I’ve personally navigated painful sex, zero libido after kids, chronic illness, and perimenopause.

• Before intimacy became my full-time world, I spent years as a communications consultant, which may explain why I care so much about helping couples actually talk to each other.

• And after all these years? I’m still convinced that great intimacy is something couples can learn.

Nobody needs to be the problem for things to change.

You can love each other deeply and still struggle with sex. Intimacy changes when life changes, and nobody hands you the updated manual when kids, stress, hormones, changing bodies, and 15 years of history enter the picture.

I don’t believe in keeping score, assigning blame, or deciding one person is the problem. I help couples understand what’s happening between them and learn the skills to navigate desire, communicate without pressure, handle rejection differently, and make room for play again.

Good intimacy is something you can learn together.

What changes when you learn a new way to connect

SEX FEELS LESS LOADED

Initiating doesn’t have to feel like a risk. Saying “not tonight” doesn’t have to ruin the evening. You learn how to take some of the pressure out of sex so there’s room for desire again.

This can look like: initiating without anxiety, saying no without guilt, touching without it always needing to lead somewhere.

YOU ACTUALLY TALK ABOUT IT

No more dancing around the subject until somebody gets hurt or frustrated. You learn how to talk about sex, desire, and what you need without every conversation becoming a whole thing.

This can look like: asking for what you want, talking about mismatched desire, bringing up something awkward without starting a fight.

YOU FEEL LIKE LOVERS AGAIN

There’s more touching. More flirting. More play. More moments when you remember there’s a whole relationship between you that has nothing to do with lunches, laundry, calendars, or who emptied the dishwasher.

This can look like: making out in the kitchen, sending the flirty text, reaching for each other in bed, actually looking forward to alone time.

The conversations we probably

should be having about sex

On the Sex After Kids Podcast, Sofia gets into what’s actually happening underneath mismatched desire, rejection, pressure, resentment, and the roommate phase, with practical advice for both partners and plenty of real talk about what intimacy looks like in real life.

Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think

Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy

LISTEN HERE

Stop making every “not tonight” mean something bigger.

When sex has become tangled up with pressure, rejection, or avoidance, even small moments can carry a lot of weight. The Pressure Free Protocol is a free 30-minute masterclass that helps you understand the cycle you’re caught in and start changing how you navigate intimacy together.

You’ve figured out a lot together – you can figure this out, too.

I know how easy it is to wonder if this is just what happens after enough years, kids, stress, and change. It doesn’t have to stay that way. Wherever things feel stuck right now, there’s a place to start learning what works for the two of you and finding your way forward together.