Best Sex Books for Couples: Expert Picks for a Better Love Life
Let’s be honest—keeping the spark alive after kids is no small feat. If you’re feeling more like roommates than lovers, you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and I know how hard it can be to find your way back to each other (and to yourself).
That’s why I’m sharing my absolute favourite sex books for couples—these are the books I wish every parent had on their nightstand. Whether you’re looking to spark more play, crave more connection, or just want sex to feel fun again, these reads are about to light a fire in your sheets (and your heart).
A quick note: Most of these books focus on female sexuality and vulva-owners, because that’s my own journey. If you’ve got recommendations for queer-focused or other must-read titles, please share them in the comments—I’d love to hear what’s made a difference for you!
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The Best Sex Books for Couples
1. For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Dr. Lonnie Barbach
A classic for anyone struggling to reach orgasm or feel satisfied after sex. This book is all about self-discovery and reclaiming your sexual confidence. It changed everything for me and countless clients.
2. Sex Drive: In Pursuit of Female Desire by Dr. Bella Ellewood Clayton
Ever felt like your libido is broken? It’s not! This book unpacks myths and pressures around female desire, especially for parents.
3. Shake Your Soul Song by Devi Ward
For anyone curious about tantra or healing old sexual wounds. Packed with practical tools and wisdom for bringing more joy and energy into your life.
4. Come as You Are & Come Together by Emily Nagoski
These bibles break down desire myths and help partners become true teammates in the bedroom. “Come as You Are” taught me how to throw a party my libido wanted to come to!
5. Becoming Clitorate by Dr. Lori Mintz
Everything you need to know about orgasm equality, anatomy, and making sure everyone is coming.
6. The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian
Unlock new ways to explore and have more fun—especially for penis owners.
7. A Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
The ultimate map to pleasure for vulva-owners. If you want to understand your own (or your partner’s) body better, this is a must-read.
Ready for Change?
If sex feels heavy, awkward, or just another chore, any book on this list is a great place to start. But the real magic happens when you take action. If you want motivation, support, and a proven plan, check out my Naked Fun Comeback program—where I’ve distilled the juiciest tools from all these experts into a step-by-step system for busy parents.
Let’s connect:
Have your own favourite book or story? Drop it in the comments or DM me—I love hearing from you!