Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - especially when it’s been a while
Let’s be real: after kids, sex can feel awkward, pressured, or just plain forgotten. If you’re thinking, “How do we even DO this anymore?” you’re not alone. The good news? Foreplay and especially the “pregame” can help you ease back in, build safety, and rediscover fun.
Watch/listen to the episode here or read the article below:
Why Most Couples Skip Real Foreplay (and Why That’s a Problem)
Parents are in survival mode. By the time you get to the bedroom, you’re tired, stressed, or already bracing for disappointment. “Foreplay” becomes a rushed checklist…if it happens at all.
But true foreplay isn’t just what happens five minutes before sex. It’s about building anticipation, safety, and trust—especially for the lower libido partner.
How to Ease Back In: Safety First
Sometimes, after a long dry spell, just starting feels overwhelming. If you want your partner to open up, focus on pressure-free flirting and connection that says: “I love you, and there’s no expectation. Just enjoy this.”
Safety is the secret ingredient that turns “maybe later” into “yes, please.”
The Massage Experiment
Imagine you offer your partner a massage…
Scenario A:
They’re already stressed, thinking, “Does this mean sex is expected?” Their walls go up before you’ve even started.
Scenario B:
You both agree: this is just a massage, zero pressure. You stay present, focus on warmth, safety, and connection. Your partner relaxes, their defenses melt—and suddenly, the idea of going further feels inviting, not scary.
Which one leads to more yes? Always the one without pressure.
5 Playful Foreplay Games to Try
3-Minute Make-out: No agenda, just kissing. Set a timer and see what happens.
Compliment Bomb: Trade non-sexual compliments. It shifts the mood fast.
Hands-Only Touch: Touch everywhere except the usual spots. Curiosity over climax.
Sexy Truth or Dare: Keep it silly and light. Share fantasies, try something new.
Anticipation Game: Flirty texts or notes throughout the day to build excitement.
These games aren’t just about getting turned on—they’re about reminding each other that sex can be playful, safe, and fun.
Ready to Try?
If you’re stuck in the roommate rut, start with the pregame. Choose safety, play, and zero pressure.
If you want even more ideas, prompts, or support, check out the Roommates to Romance Challenge. Turn “not tonight” into “ let’s stay up late” in 14 days or less with my done for you prompts. Just show up do the daily challenge and watch the magic happen. Grab it here.
What’s your go-to foreplay ritual (or what would you like it to be)? Drop it below or DM me—I love hearing your stories!
You are not broken. Sexy fun times are possible—even after kids.